ugh

[wickedcherub]

My brother in law's long time girlfriend (and presumably my sister-in-law-to-be) had this as her Facebook status update yesterday:

Wishes all the Asians would fuck off home and stop group bashing aussies fucking cowards

*sigh* I've always known her to be a bit racist and she barely ever speaks to me even though I've seen her once a week for the past 2 years. I don't know if there was a bashing recently, and even if there was, it's not like white Australians haven't been bashing up other white Australians, or Indians or Sudanese people or it's not like Asians have been solely bashing up on white Australians either as opposed to other Asians etc.

I just figured she'd know that I'd read it since we're Facebook friends? I was already offended when she joined all the racist Facebook groups like 'Fuck off we're Full'.

I don't really want to confront her because she's big and scary and well, I have to see her for the rest of my life. She's gonna be a future Aunt to my kids! That's so fucked up.

Comments

[thekatiefactor.livejournal.com]

Whatttttttttttt.

[wickedcherub.livejournal.com]

i knowwwwwwwww.

[sarahlouise.livejournal.com]

Wow, how charming :/

[wickedcherub.livejournal.com]

I know. Should I comment? If so, with what?

[txvoodoo.livejournal.com]

I think you should, and maybe with "But you don't mean me, right?"

Just enough to make her brain work like it SHOULD.

[kyuuketsukirui.livejournal.com]

DDDDDDDDD:

[wickedcherub.livejournal.com]

Yeah I don't know if I should comment on her status, and if I do, with what?

I was thinking just a 'you know I can read this, right?' but I dunno.

Adam's defriended her on Facebook. It's a little passive aggressive and I don't even know if she'd notice.

[kyuuketsukirui.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I don't know. It's tempting to comment, but what's she going to say? "Oops, didn't mean to be racist in front of you" or "Yeah, I know you can read it"? It's not like there's any response she can make that can justify it. :-/

Defriending isn't just passive-aggressive, though. It's not just to "punish" her for saying that/joining those groups/etc., it's also a way to not have to see that kind of stuff.

[wickedcherub.livejournal.com]

Well yeah, but I can just have my settings so that her status updates don't come up on my notifications. I think I'd rather know that she was being crap than ignore it.

I guess I don't talk to her anyway so there's no point in confronting her.

[laurenthemself]

You could go for the sarcastic 'Gee, thanks', but she probably wouldn't get it.

[missdewey.livejournal.com]

Hmm. If you comment, I would say something polite but firm, like, "I know it's upsetting when these things happen, but it makes me very uncomfortable when you generalize this way. I hope you don't really mean that you have something against Asian people as a whole, because I consider this my home as well and I wouldn't want to be told to get out."

And then let her feel like an ass about saying it. :)

[honeyelle.livejournal.com]

Plus, if you comment on her status, then all her other offended friends can read it.

[san.livejournal.com]

Those kind of people make me so angry. >:( I can't totally say Pot Calling Kettle Black (*coughUniClubcough*), but I do think it's an incredibly stupid thing to say, and makes no sense AT ALL.

Confronting her might just get her and her friends dog piling onto you (well ok, I'm not saying that ALL her friends are like that...), but it's a nasty thing to have to ignore. =/

[p0nderosa.livejournal.com]

oh man - i feel you - I am from country WA, so practically everyone i know is a member of 'fuck off we're full' plus many other similar groups...

Just my opinion, but I would probably leave it - I don't really see how confronting this girl will pan out well... If she has those views and is narrow minded, and you are not close with her, she will most probably get defensive and say even more things you don't want to hear.

[luciusmalfoy.livejournal.com]

Oh snap, my sister-in-law joins those facebook groups too and makes similar comments!

I retaliated by joining lots of I Hate Australia and Australians are Racists communities. XD And the hubby also started posting to her (rather than me) going YOU'RE A STINKY RACIST YOU RACIST RACIST. OMG U RACIST PANTSED RACIST. On pretty much everything she did.

So I think she's kind of over it now.

[luciusmalfoy.livejournal.com]

Also, for further lulz, every time she joined one of those Australia, Love it or Leave it communities, we were like, "WE LEFT IT! FUCK YEAH! FUCK YEAAAAHHHHH!!!! IT'S FUCKING AWESOME HERE!!!!!"