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So it turns out Adam was right, the day after I posted my last post, we got an offer for $436k for the house. 11k more than what I wanted to settle for. SOLD.

You can see the listing here if you want to stickybeak:

http://www.realestate.com.au/property-house-vic-frankston-122092598

I think we did such a good job for how awful the house was when we first got it and for the fact that we've been living on one income that entire time. It was an old 70s house with fake wood panelling on the walls, and three layers of paint (including a lime green one) and wallpaper and those little brown tiles everywhere..... including inside the shower. Except someone had painted OVER the little brown tiles, so it scratched off everywhere.

It was disgusting.

I'm so glad and relieved to have sold it, I really am.
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Hey guys, just came in to see how I'm going with my yearly goals for this year. So cutting and pasting from my 1st January post:

WORK

Now that I have a permanent position, it opens up a wealth of internal positions that I am now able to apply for. I currently have two applications in for roles at the APS4 level (I'm currently APS3). My goal for 2016, is to get an APS4 job. This really shouldn't be very hard and I really should already have one, but not to worry, onwards and upwards. What this means in practical terms is I really need to keep some sort of log of exceptional things I do at work, so that I can pull them out for applications and interviews.

STRETCH GOAL: Somehow get an APS5 position. It's not impossible. My bosses keep telling me to aim higher, apparently I am playing things too safe still, too scared of rejection. I just.. have to apply for them. LORD GIVE ME THE CONFIDENCE OF A MEDIOCRE WHITE MAN.


So I actually got an offer for both APS4 jobs I went for (actually technically, one of the applications was for 3 separate positions, and I got ranked best in all of them) which means that in the past 6 months I have received a job offer for every single job (all 8) I have applied for.

The position the director of the company decided to put me in, Call Centre Team Leader is not my first choice, however, but he sweet talked me into saying he needed his best people at the front, not at the back end, where I wanted to be. I also am going to be supervising a team of 9-10 people, and I have never supervised anyone in my life, so I need that experience. The director also strongly hinted that there would be APS5 positions available in the department I want to work in, this year, waiting for me, so *MAYBE* my stretch goal might be achieved! WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

What this genuinely means for me though, is that I should be much more confident than I am, if I am beating out hundreds of applicants for all of these roles and just start believing in myself and apply for things that I might be underqualified for.


HEALTH
56kg is just not acceptable for me. I'm normally 53kg if I eat normally, don't watch what I eat, etc. I have started eating an enormous amount due to procrastination, boredom, etc. I just need to cut down portion sizes as well as less carbs. So, I guess my goals are 53kg.

STRETCH GOALS: 50kg. To attain this, I actually have to do exercise, which is something I just don't do. I have found fun 5 minute workout videos on YouTube, and it's probably a good place to start.


No, we're just so busy at the moment, if anything I'm eating worse :( I have no brain space for this at the moment.

HOUSE
Get the house on the market before March, which is when Adam goes back to uni. This means I have to DECLUTTER the crap out of it, and clean it. This is a bigger job than you think, because to be honest, I'm a pig and my house is filthy. I'm going to start moving stuff to my in laws before we sell, so that the house is less cluttered. I'm also going to have to buy a few.. decorative things - I don't own decorative things due to young children, to try and spruce up the place.

I also need to see a mortgage broker, now that I am permanently employed. I would like to see how much I can borrow/pay back on my salary, before Adam gets a job.


Okay so what happened here is our house is on the market. Yay. I thought we would get 400k for it, Adam wants at least 430k. We have now had an offer for 425k and I want to take it, but Adam is all 'it's the first offer, you never take the first offer, you at least negotiate' and it's making me feel so anxious. I'm not a negotiator, I'm not a deal-maker, I'm not a gambler. I don't bet on things, I never even buy lotto tickets and only raffle tickets because they are fundraisers. So if someone wants to give me 425k, I'm just like YES PLEASE and I want to take it and run :(

What else has happened is that we bought a house already. So I really want to sell my house so I don't have to pay for two mortgages. We bought a house and it needs SO MUCH work on it guys. We're living at my in laws, which I think is actually quite okay, but it's stressing Adam out for a multitude of reasons and he wants out, pronto. So now he's just finished renovating our old house for sale and jumped straight into fixing up a new one and I'M NOT READY. It's going to be my 'forever' house and he's asking me about tiles for the bathroom etc and I DON'T KNOW I HAVEN'T EVEN THOUGHT ABOUT IT and it's stressing everyone out.

Seriously this new house is so gross, we got it fairly cheap because it was a deceased estate and the house is falling apart and stinks of cigarettes, but it's on such a lovely big block of land we could subdivide one day, on a nice street, walking distance to the train station, and it cuts my commute by almost 45 min. AN HOUR AND A HALF A DAY OF MY LIFE IT SAVES. We just need to... rebuild. *sigh*

ADAM
The bulk of 2016 will be taken up by Adam finishing the 4 units he has left of uni (of which he still has a High Distinction average GO HIM) and getting a job. He's aiming for grad positions and they are ridiculously competitive. Like, part of me is a bit pessimistic about it, but I can't show him because he's worked so damn hard for this.

Some grad positions open for applications in February, some in March, April, May, etc etc, and they can take up to 6 months to go through all of the assessment. 2016 is going to be a stressful year.
What I have to do, is make a spreadsheet of all of the places he'll want to apply, dates etc, and then practice applications with him because he kind of hasn't done this before and the constant rejection is going to hurt his soul. This is on top of the uni work he has to do! All of my applications for my own jobs has taken so much out of me this year, it's going to be worse for him.
I'm going to cry so hard if he gets a job, you have no idea guys.

Everything else going on with Adam is A+++


Adam is not functioning well. He's decided he needs to fix up our new house NOW because we need to move out of his parent's house because his mum has early onset alzheimers and he can't handle seeing it every day so he's running away. That on top of the uni, on top of the job search, on top of selling our house and I'm currently on two weeks leave just to try and alleviate his stress. He's not sleeping well (our bed is still at our house being staged for sale) and it's just a mess :( I don't know how else to help except just.. plug away and help him however I can.

LIAM AND TOBY
We are going to start giving them more responsibilities now. Cleaning up their toys etc. Also give them better routines now that Liam is starting school (OMG)


Liam is going great guns at school. He's 5 and reads at the 3rd grade level. He's made lots of friends and loves school. When we move house, we'll move to a much more multicultural area (apparently the school has kids from 69 different language backgrounds!) which will make *me* feel better about things. He's also taken responsibility of cleaning his room and it's giving him more control of his space so he's much happier.

Toby has behavioural issues sometimes but he's just as (book) smart as Liam and I wish everyone wouldn't forget that just because he's not as quiet and studious as Liam (ok so he's loud and boisterous). His drawing/reading/maths skills are just as good as Liam at that age and his social skills are far superior. He is hella spoilt though, and living at my in laws doesn't help, so we'll see.

MONEY
If we manage to sell the house, money in the short term won't be an issue. Moving in with the inlaws will save us a lot of money too, as will Liam going to school and not needing daycare.
I think we're ok for money.


Yeah, still okay. My parents had to lend me 135k (!!!!!!!!) to buy our new house before we sold our old one, and I really want to pay them back ASAP, but we will be able to do easily once I sell the house.

LIFE
To be very honest, everything in 2016 is going to be swept aside for Adam finishing uni and getting a job. I am going to make sure we make time for the kids, but it's going to be hectic and stressful. Then finding a house to buy if Adam does get a job...


It's really not much fun right now :( But everything (except for my poor mother in law's health) is a positive sort of stress, I guess. See you in about three months.
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Hi everyone - continuing my trend of only posting resolutions, it's time to look at last year's goals for the first time since making them lol, and see how I went. Also, new goals.

WORK
Get a promotion. I am well regarded at work, I hold a lot of important roles and they're sending me to external focus groups to try and make our organisation a better place. However I get passed over for a lot of promotions that actually pay more money like leadership roles and I think it's down to my job application skills, so I will try my fucking hardest this year to get that right. Like it is ridiculous, people at work always assume I'm in management and it pisses me off that I'm not.


Okay, I didn't get a promotion. However, I did a lot of sideways moves and gained a lot of experience in a lot of areas, that a promotion is pretty much inevitable at this point.

STRETCH GOAL: get a permanent position. There are rumours flying around that there will be a tiny number of permanent spots up for grabs at work this year (everyone here is on a short contract) and I don't think that I have a great chance, but I do have *a* chance so I want it. This job is flexible enough to let me work say, 10-3 every day which would be perfect while the kids are in school but still young.

THIS HAPPENED, HOWEVER. Our government kind of changed and that opened up all sorts of vacancies. I applied for three things in August, and after FOUR FREAKING MONTHS of the most stressful assessment etc, I was offered a permanent position on Christmas Eve for all three things :D I'm pretty much set with a job for life :) I'm going to be working in Refugee and Humanitarian Visas. The hours are flex between 7am-6pm, so as long as I work 37.5 hours a week, they won't care when I come in or when I leave, and if I work more hours than that, I can take that time in lieu. I can also purchase leave, on top of my 4 weeks annual leave, which makes things really flexible for school holidays (but that's kind of expensive, isn't it).


STUDY
I'm going to apply for a Diploma in Business Administration in the next couple of weeks. I want that qualification to help me get my next job. It's an online course, I should be done in six months.


This didn't happen because I didn't need it in the end, now that I've got a permanent job.

HEALTH
I currently weigh about 53kg in the morning. I want that to be 50kg by March. I want to be sub 50 by mid year and to keep it that way. My main plan of attack is to stop eating terrible snacks at work, and to cut down on the sheer amount of bread and sugar I consume. I hope that will be enough. I'll do more if I have to, but I don't really want to.
I want to excerise but I have zero plans. I wonder if taking the stairs more often would benefit at all whatsoever.


Ha. Hahahaha. I did get down to about 51kg, then I moved to another section at work where everyone eats a huge amount of snacks etc, and now weigh close to 56kg. :\ This will have to go back on this year's goals.

HOUSE
I have to start helping Adam out more with the housework. The plan is just to force myself into 20 min a day before bed time, tidy up.

This happened more, but not as much as I would like. The house was cleaner this year simply because the kids needed less supervision, and therefore Adam could spend more time cleaning.

LIFE
I want to read more actual books instead of fanfic. I want to listen to new music.
I have started a bullet journal as of this week where I'm keeping lists of things and I've listened to three new albums and read two books this week alone. It's also kept me so organised and productive, you should look into it, if to do apps aren't working for you.


I read like.. 5 books. It turns out that books don't do it for me anymore, they're just full of shit people doing shit things, or problematic authors being sexist or bad sex scenes or something. I have given into the fact that fanfic gives me what I need, and while I'm not really furthering my education with it, so be it.

I did listen to a lot of new music this year, but it was all pop music. Bullet journal continues to be great.

I'm going to try be more tactful, more discreet, and talk less about myself all things I admire in others that I currently lack.
Hmm. Turns out sometimes you can't really change your personality much.

ADAM
I am going to find my sex drive somewhere or get Adam to help me find it. I lost the desire to have actual-longer-than-perfunctory-5-min sec with the pregnancies and I can tell it really bothers Adam who is craving it. I have to find some energy somewhere too.

I am going to stop taking Adam for granted and do my best to assist with his workload and stress. So this includes helping out with home, and being more demonstrative in my affection.

I have worked out that I have the energy for full-marathon sex maybe once a month, and that gives us both enough good vibes for the boring sex we have 4 times a week or whatever. Adam is currently very pleased with having me for a wife because I have become better at appreciating him.

MONEY
I want to save enough money to go to Vietnam March 2016. Things that will help are the fact that they've changed the train ticket prices so I'll save like $750 a year on that alone. Adam is doing small jobs here and there, so if he did one once a month and we put that into savings, we'll get there. We can do it!

This is not going to happen. It costs too much. We went on a family holiday this year and that was nice but it already cost us $3000 and it was just a week, within Australia.

RANDOM OTHER THINGS
We need to work out what we're doing with our house situation once and for all. We want to move I just don't know how, right now, being single income, so I need to get proactive and go to a bank and ask. I need to be less afraid of change.


Yes. We have worked out what we are doing. We are selling, and selling soon. Adam is currently renovating on his Summer break from uni, and when he is finished we will sell. We will then move in with his parents for a year or so, while he finishes his last year of uni, and after he gets a job, we will buy a house closer to where we want to live.

ALRIGHTY. GOALS FOR THIS YEAR 2016.

WORK

Now that I have a permanent position, it opens up a wealth of internal positions that I am now able to apply for. I currently have two applications in for roles at the APS4 level (I'm currently APS3). My goal for 2016, is to get an APS4 job. This really shouldn't be very hard and I really should already have one, but not to worry, onwards and upwards. What this means in practical terms is I really need to keep some sort of log of exceptional things I do at work, so that I can pull them out for applications and interviews.

STRETCH GOAL: Somehow get an APS5 position. It's not impossible. My bosses keep telling me to aim higher, apparently I am playing things too safe still, too scared of rejection. I just.. have to apply for them. LORD GIVE ME THE CONFIDENCE OF A MEDIOCRE WHITE MAN.

HEALTH
56kg is just not acceptable for me. I'm normally 53kg if I eat normally, don't watch what I eat, etc. I have started eating an enormous amount due to procrastination, boredom, etc. I just need to cut down portion sizes as well as less carbs. So, I guess my goals are 53kg.

STRETCH GOALS: 50kg. To attain this, I actually have to do exercise, which is something I just don't do. I have found fun 5 minute workout videos on YouTube, and it's probably a good place to start.

HOUSE
Get the house on the market before March, which is when Adam goes back to uni. This means I have to DECLUTTER the crap out of it, and clean it. This is a bigger job than you think, because to be honest, I'm a pig and my house is filthy. I'm going to start moving stuff to my in laws before we sell, so that the house is less cluttered. I'm also going to have to buy a few.. decorative things - I don't own decorative things due to young children, to try and spruce up the place.

I also need to see a mortgage broker, now that I am permanently employed. I would like to see how much I can borrow/pay back on my salary, before Adam gets a job.

ADAM
The bulk of 2016 will be taken up by Adam finishing the 4 units he has left of uni (of which he still has a High Distinction average GO HIM) and getting a job. He's aiming for grad positions and they are ridiculously competitive. Like, part of me is a bit pessimistic about it, but I can't show him because he's worked so damn hard for this.

Some grad positions open for applications in February, some in March, April, May, etc etc, and they can take up to 6 months to go through all of the assessment. 2016 is going to be a stressful year.
What I have to do, is make a spreadsheet of all of the places he'll want to apply, dates etc, and then practice applications with him because he kind of hasn't done this before and the constant rejection is going to hurt his soul. This is on top of the uni work he has to do! All of my applications for my own jobs has taken so much out of me this year, it's going to be worse for him.
I'm going to cry so hard if he gets a job, you have no idea guys.

Everything else going on with Adam is A+++

LIAM AND TOBY
We are going to start giving them more responsibilities now. Cleaning up their toys etc. Also give them better routines now that Liam is starting school (OMG)

MONEY
If we manage to sell the house, money in the short term won't be an issue. Moving in with the inlaws will save us a lot of money too, as will Liam going to school and not needing daycare.
I think we're ok for money.

LIFE
To be very honest, everything in 2016 is going to be swept aside for Adam finishing uni and getting a job. I am going to make sure we make time for the kids, but it's going to be hectic and stressful. Then finding a house to buy if Adam does get a job...

If we make it through this year and Adam gets a job, 2017 is going to be the greatest freaking year.
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There's nothing that makes me more ill than looking at property prices. The area I want to buy - some of those houses have risen in price by 200k in the last eighteen months while I've been looking and my house value has gone up maybe 40k? Like I don't understand how the value of my house could have gone up a paltry $180k in the past ten years when other suburbs have gone up almost $500k in that time period. I'm being priced out of the market and it's making me ill.

I then worry that if I just shut my eyes and buy these expensive houses in that area that I want, then the market will drop instead of rise and I will have made a loss. Because surely the market cannot sustain 3bedroom houses 40 min drive from city centre at $700k. Surely.

I hate adulting so much.
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1. Adam let me have a giant nap today and let me wake up naturally. This is the happiest of things.

2. Summer has finally hit and we spent half the day in the pool :) Liam is allowing himself to float, finally! I'm so proud; he's such a scaredy cat.

3. I got to stay back at after-work drinks yesterday - I rarely get to socialise, so that was fun. I had to describe at length everything that happened at the Puppetry of the Penis show I'd seen once (omg hilarious, amazing, who knew foreskins could stretch so much) and it was such a good time.

4. I saw Guardians of the Galaxy finally. It was okay, I think it was kinda overhyped by the time I got to it.
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1. We just got through Lunar New Year unscathed. Lunar New Year tends to be a time when my mum reflects on her life and hates it, then puts on a happy face because that's what you're supposed to do on New Year's Day and it's the absolute worst. But it's over now and my kids gave very good blessings in Vietnamese in front of an audience and everyone is happy hurrah.

2. Adam has finished his exams for the semester today thank god. The stress was getting unbearable. Now I have no idea if he passed one of the subjects, which will be a bummer, because he's been running a perfect 4.0 GPA/HD average so far and the subject was just terribly run. Adam's got a few weeks now until the next semester starts and I hope he has a good break. He was so burnt out.

3. I had a meeting with my future boss in the Finance team and it looks set to start on Monday 2nd of March. He seems lovely and was very easy going with me asking for leave etc. He went through the role and it looks like I have a lot to learn, which usually wouldn't faze me but my brain genuinely is noticeably worse since I've had kids. I don't know if it's sleep deprivation, the hormones or age, but my brain doesn't work like it used to. But I'm so set for new things, a year on the phones was pretty much my limit.

4. Liam seems to be doing well at Kinder, Toby doing well at daycare. I had a day off today so I got to talk to their teachers etc, something Adam doesn't tend to do much.

5. I got to talk to one of my oldest friends, I haven't spoken to her for months, and she was going through a really tough time in her marriage, and I really should have kept much more in touch because things got really really bad. This is a happy thing for me, because IMO she never should have married him - he's a good guy, he's just not made for marriage. They've been married 5 years now and they still look like they're dating. They have completely separate lives. This is not what my friend wants, and nothing seems to be working. So I think she will finally take the plunge and ask for a divorce and deal with all the crap that goes with that, such as the stigma from the Indian community here.

6. I have been watching Merlin/Arthur fanvids that were made after the finale, and you know what, this is not a happy thing at all this just made me cry big fat tears. BUT OMG I FORGOT HOW MUCH I LOVED THOSE TWO IDIOTS. THEY WERE MASTER and SERVANT and I feel like this is something Modern AUs sometimes forget. I want to go back and re-read all the fic in the world.

Like this video is one of my absolute favourites, and it only has 9000 views! OMG PLEASE WATCH IT IF YOU EVER LIKED MERLIN/ARTHUR AT ALL.



7. I had my period and wear Libra Ultrathin brand pads, and Toby lifted up my skirt and yelled, "MUMMY WEARING NAPPY!!!!!!!!!!" Lol. Not so Ultrathin, are they?! Omg I almost died. I'm so glad that happened at home and not out somewhere. Toby's newfound vocabulary is a neverending source of amusement around here.

8. I've been Rickrolled twice yesterday alone. I know people find it annoying, but as far as pranks go, I really like it? It's just kind of joyful instead of nasty and I've always loved that song.
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1. They might be allowing me to keep my 8-4 shift when I move to the Finance team. Working 9-5 would kill me because I'd get home around six thirty and the boys go to bed at seven thirty and that's not why I go to work, I'd rather do something shit and see more of them. So good news!

2. My period has seemingly come early, hurrah not pregnant, but the happy thing is that past Tina actually remembered to buy sanitary supplies in advance this time. You would think that after 20 years of this I would remember to buy it, but nope.

3. We had a good time at the Lunar New Year festival though it was very hot and we kind of injured ourselves on the giant slide. My friend told anyone who would listen all about the Super Fun Time we had, which was honestly kind of annoying, but I'm glad she had a good time. She got upset today because I brought up I was moving teams (ie someone picked me for something and no one ever picks her) and ugh I kind of don't have time for friends like that even though I know she can't help it. I'll be moving anyhow and won't have much to do with her probably.

4. My kids had haircuts yesterday and they were so well behaved I'm so proud of them.
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1. We didn't do anything for Valentine's Day because Adam's in the middle of exams, and I'm kind of glad that I don't *care* about it? Like, at no point did I feel disappointed or upset about it because Adam shows that he loves me a million other little ways even if he never makes grand gestures or organises anything. ALSO it gets me out of having to organise anything for him myself. I have a lot of young people friended on FB and oh my goodness their presents are so *elaborate* haha they're wonderful but damn I'm glad Adam doesn't expect that from me.

2. I'm taking the boys and a friend from work to the Springvale Lunar New Year festivities today. My friend has a million mental health issues and concrete life issues (read: an awful husband) and she's been having a tough time recently with everyone at work seemingly getting other opportunities but she's being left out, even though she is one of the most hard working, excellent operators we have. So I am going to try and cheer her up today. She feels left out of EVERYTHING, has a major case of FOMO, and every time she hears that a couple of our colleagues may have caught up on the weekend she feels upset that she wasn't invited. I swear her brain is her worst enemy. So *I'm* inviting her out :D

3. While in Springvale, I may also catch up with one of my oldest friends who I haven't seen for months! I find it so hard to find time to catch up with friends because of the kids.

4. Liam was unwell yesterday with a temperature but he seems much better today.

5. It looks like it may hit 32 degrees today OMG SUMMER WILL YOU JUST START ALREADY.

6. One Direction are in town and that always makes me happy even though I didn't get tickets this time around.
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A couple of people on my flist have started a 'happy things' daily post so I thought I'd give it a go, though I'm sure I'd never keep it up daily.

TODAY:

1. A family friend of mine was in a coma for 3 months after a nasty motorcycle accident and he's come out now and though he's a bit of a vegetable still, he's asked to see me (as best as he could) so I'm going to go visit him today. POSITIVE SIGNS!

2. I got a promotion! Okay not really. I am moving out of the call centre into the finance department at work, looking after accounts receivable! So it's the same pay grade, therefore not a promotion, but it means, off the phones, it also means a new contract, which means my 3 year call centre contract gets effectively paused while I work in finance for 12 months, then I'm allowed back on the phones. This is also great because I move from the 39th floor down to the 10th, which sounds like a downgrade, but there's a girl moving to 39 that i JUST CANNOT STAND, I even preemptively asked to move desks before her arrival so I wouldn't have to deal with her, and now I will only have to deal with her for two weeks! HURRAH!
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This is a large brain dump of all the things I need to work out to make some big adult decisions.

It'll probably get long )

It kind of occurred to me that I've never really had to make real adult decisions before. All my major life decisions had an undertone of 'avoidance' in them - I rushed into marriage to move out of home, I had babies to avoid going to uni, and all of these decisions have been wonderful but this is my first real decision I have to make. And I just want to throw up and run away. I've been procrastinating with the idea that it's future decisions and well, the future is now.

Okay so here is the situation.

1. We live in a tiny house where I pay $260pw mortgage.
2. We have approximately $150k equity in this house.
3. This house once had termites and we want to be rid of it.
4. We live a fair way from the city centre, like I leave the house at 6:10am to start work at 8:00am.
5. I currently take home $800 per week after tax. This will continue until at least march 2017 but probably further.
6. Adam is a stay at home father, at uni, he will graduate end of 2016.
7. Liam starts school in 2016.
8. Adam has a lucrative casual job but we won't know how often he can work it until February.
9. The government also gives me $240 a week to help raise my kids because Adam doesn't work.

Okay. So we want to move. We want to move because

1. We have outgrown this house.
2. Adam will get a job in the city after he graduates so we need to move further in.
3. Termites.
4. To move to a better school zone.

We cannot move because

1. Our house needs a few things finished before it is sell ready and Adam doesn't have time this very minute to do it.
2. I haven't been to a bank yet but I doubt they will give me a loan on the basis that I'm a single income with kids and even if they did I'm not positive I could service the loan.

So I came up with a plan.

I want to move this year, so we can enrol Liam in a decent school. I don't want to switch schools on him, on top of moving. He would not handle that well.

I researched schools in Melbourne and the best primary public schools are in Glen Waverley.

Glen Waverley:
1. 30 min from city, 40 min on train.
2. 15 min from Adam's uni, as opposed to the 45min it is now.
3. 15 min from my parents, who are likely to look after my kids after school.
4. Chock full of good schools, amazing food, near a lake, beautiful tree area.
5. Houses are 1.2 million dollars.

Okay so my plan is to sell our house and rent in Glen Waverley for a year. Rent is approximately $400 per week for an old three bedroom house. That's $140 more than what we pay now.

Then when Adam starts work and we are dual income, we can buy in the next suburb over, Mulgrave, for 600k and still have Liam go to those schools.

Sticking points with the plan that I need to sort out.

1. If I sell the house and just put our equity in a term deposit for a year I'm not sure if the government will stop giving us payment.
2. Enrolment in schools starts fairly early 2015 and I don't know whether I can enrol in a school when I don't actually live there yet.
3. I don't know if that extra $140 per week is beyond my means until I redo the budget.

Adam hates the plan. He wants to live close to the beach. I can't find an affordable suburb near the beach that is not far away from the city or with good schools. He thinks the housing bubble will burst but the houses on the coast will hold their prices. He feels uncomfortable in land. Glen Waverley is approximately half an hour from the beach.

I'm uncomfortable with leaving the housing market.

I don't even know. It's doing my head in. I've got other things to consider too but I'm running out of battery.
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Hi everyone how are you, I was thinking about this year's resolutions and where I was going to post them and thought I'd check out LJ. I didn't even realise that I had 2014 resolutions Lol. I'm positing this from my phone so we'll see how we go.

This year has been a great one for me, the best one I've had in maybe fifteen years. I think it mostly had to do with the fact that for the first time in my life I was not keeping up a lie with anyone. I wasn't lying to anyone about university anymore and it's like I can see again.

Adam has been a spectacular stay at home father and has a 4.0 GPA for his first year of uni. He is stressed, but it's a productive stress, not that overwhelming stress you get where you don't know what you're doing with your life.

Work has been super great with me, I've got a contract until Adam finished uni and am likely to get a promotion before that time anyway.

The kids no longer sleep in my bed, and that, unsurprisingly, has made my marriage a lot better too. I also have a new found appreciation for Adam and our relationship and the fact that we actually communicate because of all the relationships I've been in contact with since I've started work and seeing what hot messes they all are! So much drama!

My brother graduated university so my parents don't want to kill themselves anymore. I cried a lot at the graduation. Then it looked like he was just going to be a lazy ass bum at my parents house forever but he just received a paid internship at L'Oréal (which is a much much bigger organisation than I thought, they own like every single other cosmetics company it seems!) doing IT, so it is all coming up fucking mill house and I cried even more at work when he smsed me to tell me the news.

So let's look at my resolutions from last year.

GET A JOB
- fix up my resume by Friday January 6th, draft up a basic cover letter that is easy to edit
- start mass bombing admin jobs etc. It'll be easier to get a job I want once I'm actually working.

Yeah I got a full time job by March for the federal government. It pays awesomely for a job with basically zero responsibilities and zero stress as Adam is under so much stress at home it's lovely to just go home and support him without bringing my own burdens. There is scope for promotion as well, and I think they may open up permanent positions this year but we'll see how this government pans out.

SAVE ENOUGH MONEY FOR
- pay off the credit card debt of $1500
- family holiday to Vietnam, approximately $6000
- new nice bed frames for the boys

I paid off the credit card and had quite a bit of savings, but that went all the hell at the end of the year when we had to pay for various large things that came up as well as Christmas. So it's likely to come up again this year. Mum has offered to buy beds for the boys. :)


HEALTH
- become fitter, look hot for wedding in March. I would like to be able to run without getting short of breath immediately, as well as push a trolley with both my boys in it and all the groceries without worrying I'm going to crash into a car in the carpark. I would also like to be able to fit into my clothes everywhere.
- I downloaded the Fitocracy app, which gives you points for doing physical activity and lets you attain levels and achievements
- I will start running, today.
- I will drink some water every time I get hungry because a) I don't drink enough water and b) I think I'm actually thirsty when I feel hungry. (obviously if I'm still hungry after that I will eat. I don't need to lose weight)

This was a major fail because I gave up breastfeeding in March then went back to work in a position where I just sit on my butt all day and eat food. I have gained a lot of weight and am so unfit because the commute takes maybe 3hrs of my day every day I don't have time to exercise. I do drink a fuckton of water though. Maybe about 2.5 litres a day. That's about 10 glasses. This will go back on the resolution list.

HOUSE
- I will do SOME dishes every day. This has been a big problem for me this year.
- I will PUT AWAY some laundry every day. I've been on top of having the laundry clean and dry, just not put away.

Umm, I handed over housekeeping duties over to Adam who doesn't do dishes every day but gets them all done at least every second day. Getting the laundry done is still my problem though and my problem didn't get better but I have think I've got a plan for it this year. SURELY.

ADAM
- I will help enrol Adam into university this year. I will help him research the correct courses this week. Enrollment at Open University closes February 14th.

Adam enrolled into full time Bachelor of Commerce degree by March and has achieved a GPA of 4.0 after his first year. So this has been a success. An extremely stressful awful success but a success nonetheless. There's just 12 subjects to go over the next two years.

OKAY SO FOR 2015

WORK
Get a promotion. I am well regarded at work, I hold a lot of important roles and they're sending me to external focus groups to try and make our organisation a better place. However I get passed over for a lot of promotions that actually pay more money like leadership roles and I think it's down to my job application skills, so I will try my fucking hardest this year to get that right. Like it is ridiculous, people at work always assume I'm in management and it pisses me off that I'm not.

STRETCH GOAL: get a permanent position. There are rumours flying around that there will be a tiny number of permanent spots up for grabs at work this year (everyone here is on a short contract) and I don't think that I have a great chance, but I do have *a* chance so I want it. This job is flexible enough to let me work say, 10-3 every day which would be perfect while the kids are in school but still young.

STUDY
I'm going to apply for a Diploma in Business Administration in the next couple of weeks. I want that qualification to help me get my next job. It's an online course, I should be done in six months.

HEALTH
I currently weigh about 53kg in the morning. I want that to be 50kg by March. I want to be sub 50 by mid year and to keep it that way. My main plan of attack is to stop eating terrible snacks at work, and to cut down on the sheer amount of bread and sugar I consume. I hope that will be enough. I'll do more if I have to, but I don't really want to.
I want to excerise but I have zero plans. I wonder if taking the stairs more often would benefit at all whatsoever.

HOUSE
I have to start helping Adam out more with the housework. The plan is just to force myself into 20 min a day before bed time, tidy up.

LIFE
I want to read more actual books instead of fanfic. I want to listen to new music.
I have started a bullet journal as of this week where I'm keeping lists of things and I've listened to three new albums and read two books this week alone. It's also kept me so organised and productive, you should look into it, if to do apps aren't working for you.

I'm going to try be more tactful, more discreet, and talk less about myself all things I admire in others that I currently lack.

I will initiate contact with my friends at least once a month. I'll put it on my bullet journal if I have to.

ADAM
I am going to find my sex drive somewhere or get Adam to help me find it. I lost the desire to have actual-longer-than-perfunctory-5-min sec with the pregnancies and I can tell it really bothers Adam who is craving it. I have to find some energy somewhere too.

I am going to stop taking Adam for granted and do my best to assist with his workload and stress. So this includes helping out with home, and being more demonstrative in my affection.

MONEY
I want to save enough money to go to Vietnam March 2016. Things that will help are the fact that they've changed the train ticket prices so I'll save like $750 a year on that alone. Adam is doing small jobs here and there, so if he did one once a month and we put that into savings, we'll get there. We can do it!

RANDOM OTHER THINGS
We need to work out what we're doing with our house situation once and for all. We want to move I just don't know how, right now, being single income, so I need to get proactive and go to a bank and ask. I need to be less afraid of change.
Or I need to have an actual talk to my parents about us all buying a house together they'll let us rent and perhaps sell in a few years or whatever. I'm so sick of our shoebox house, but I love paying like barely anything on the mortgage repayments.

BRING ON 2015 YEAR OF GETTING SHIT DONE
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Adam: "I'm glad you don't use lj anymore"
Me: "Why? I miss it."
Adam: "Because you only used it to vent, and now you vent at me instead, so if you're not using it it means you're not venting *about* me, either"

Fair point. My life is going swimmingly, hope yours is too. I check lj every single day, sorry I'm terrible at commenting.
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I got a job finally! I was getting increasingly desperate as Adam finishes work on the 28th of February, so I applied for call centre work at like, midnight on Sunday and had 4 calls on the Monday, lol. I kept coming second with the Admin jobs I was after too, it was very frustrating.
Anyway, I have a call centre job with the Department of Immigration, connecting non-English speakers with the government's free translation service. I also got a job with a bank (after the most arduous selection process I've ever had to go through, 4 hours of group interview can go fuck off and die) which I thought would be really good for future prospects, but when the lady came to give me a spiel about how great the job was, it put me right off haha. Plus there were sales targets I needed to reach and no thanks.

The job pays almost 8k more than Adam's job did, but we come out $65 a week less than we have now, because of the cost of transporting me to the city every day for work, as well as our government benefits dropping because I'm earning more, the fact that I cross the threshold for pay and have to start paying my student loans back, and the fact we're putting Toby in care for a day too. However, the job has copious opportunities for overtime as the call centre is on 24/7, so I think I might pick up an extra shift every month and that should take care of it. Adam might also work casually once a fortnight, so financially we're all okay!

I know this is quite crude but I am quite boggled that someone is paying me 54k a year to answer phone calls.

The big downside to the job is that it's only a 12 month contract. A lot of government jobs are, for a myriad of reasons, and usually you'd be able to find another internal job while you're there, but our government has put a freeze on recruiting permanent positions, so it's unlikely. I'll still be looking for a job during this year I think. No big deal, I think 12 months is my limit for call centre work anyway. I think having known name on my resume is going to help.

It's a one hour train commute, but it's okay because it means we don't have to buy another car. I will also get a lot of reading done.

In the next few months I'm going to enroll in an online Diploma of Business Administration and see if that can't help me get an admin job.

I'm hoping that, even though I'm working 9-5, that the job is flexible with me swapping shifts with other people, like I can see myself taking someone's 1-9pm Friday shift occasionally so they can go out at night, and that allows me to see the kids in the morning at whatever activity they're doing.

It's been *such* a stressful time for us, Adam said that since we got through it without fighting even once, we must be able to get through anything! I mean, during the week all the news reports were saying unemployment was at a 10 year high and I just wanted to drown myself. He's been wonderful. We can spend this weekend preparing for his uni studies now, picking subjects and then I've got a week to organise the house ready for handover.

I've been demoralised so often in this process, but I've learnt so much about it, I got exponentially better with interviews as the time went by, I have perfected my resume and I've learnt about me. But while I was dejected, Adam told me that I was so amazing that I could even be the CEO of a multinational company if I wanted, I only lacked the desire. That I had the potential, not that I had to live up to it, I could be someone's Admin assistant for life for all he cared, but that I was capable of so much. And it bowled me right over. I mean, I know Adam loves me, but I often saw it as him loving me because we get along, because he finds me attractive, and I'm a nice person. I never thought he actually admired me in any way? And this idea that I *don't* have to have some high flying job just because I can, is really relieving. The difference between Adam and my parents, I feel.

We haven't told my parents of our plans, btw. They're not going to take it well. What's new.

I'm also relieved because this rate of pay is similar to what I would have earned as a first year teaching graduate (it's less, but not heaps less), so I don't feel so guilty for not finishing my teaching degree now. I feel bad for lying to Adam and what not, but I don't have to feel bad for screwing up my career and the futures of my kids etc etc like my parents were saying.

ONWARDS!

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Feb. 4th, 2014 07:29 pm
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I've missed a lot of days lately and there really is no point catching up, but we've had a lot of really great days at the beach, had a great Lunar New Year etc. My mother's group has organised a MUMS ONLY trip away at the start of March and I cannot wait. A whole night away! I love my mother's group. I'd never pick them to be my friends if I had gotten to know them in any other way, but they are a really supportive lovely bunch of women.

- It was a nice sunny day today so the boys and I were on Main Street Mornington looking at the shops and playing at the playground. Watching Liam and Toby chase completely unafraid seagulls is a crack up. I'd never noticed before, but a lot of the shops on Main Street have a cute little bowl of water out the front for dogs. Super cute.

- Liam is fighting bedtime and he's on the couch and his head is lolling and I'm trying not to burst into laughter at him, so I've given him 5 more minutes while I type this up.

- Toby is sleeping much better at night!

- I've been extremely stressed about this job situation. That job interview I went for.. I was runner up :( The employer guy spent a lot of time on the phone with me afterwards, giving me tips on job hunting and talking through the new businesses he was going to start, which he wanted me to be a part of, but to be honest, I'm not comfortable with being part of a start up, it just doesn't sound all that stable. I've had no luck with applications since, I'm pretty sure my application is just the same as everyone else's, you know? All this stress is just leading me to have copious amounts of 'distract me' sex, which, thank god I'm married to Adam and I'm not actually obligated to seduce him outside of smiling at him. So.. yay for sex?

- Fic I have enjoyed: Closer than Most by Findulas. (Sterek, Explicit, 46k) It's FWB to lovers (kind of) fic and it's wonderful
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- Toby has only woken up ONCE a night these past two nights and not required a feed. So he's not feeding at all during the night. This is amazing.

- We went to the Museum today and the kids had a blast as per usual. It's such a nice museum, really well designed. It was free entry, but the parking cost me $23. Liam and Toby easily spent 2 hours + in the kids section alone. It was packed today, being still school holidays. I gotta say though, some children's behaviour is *appalling*. School aged kids - it's not even the behaviour I'm shocked at, it's the parents either not telling them off after they see the behaviour, or just cursorily saying 'don't do that', and not following through. I had to remove Liam and Toby from a section because this little 4 year old girl would not stop throwing the soft toys *at* my children, even when I asked her to stop, and her mum was just 'don't do that Ava' and kept playing on her phone. Outside, there were some pigeons, and some of the older kids liked chasing them, but one kid wouldn't stop spitting water at them and got it all over the outdoor toys, and another was just throwing toys *at* the pigeons. The good news is that my kids are at that age where they're still perfectly behaved. Maybe I'll change my tune when they're older. They're Adam's kids soon, though, and he's the disciplinarian around here.

- I always come out of the museum with a new love of spiders. I generally hate spiders, but the spiders exhibit always make me appreciate them and the little webs around my house.

- I felt sick after coming home and I went to bed for a half hour and got up to make dinner and Adam had already put dinner on the table. BEST.

- Yesterday I was trying to get Liam out of my hair and told him to go draw something. He never draws or anything, so I was hoping it would be a novelty, and he agreed. I asked him to maybe draw me, and he adamantly yelled 'NO!!!!!' so I told him he could draw whatever he wanted. I later heard an 'OH NO YOUR HAIR IS TOO LONG MUMMYYYYYY' and came out to find that Liam had drawn my entire family. He's never so much as drawn a person in his life, and he's drawn me with long hair, forgetting that it's been cut. I have glasses! We have bodies! And fingers! How amazing is it. He's only ever really scribbled before and there's our entire family, recognisable! (sort of).

- In other Liam is Amazing news, driving to the museum, Liam pointed out the words 'Exit' and 'Melbourne', saying 'that's where we live.' He really just learns words off by heart, that kid.

- Toby is saying words like 'uh oh' and 'hi' now. Also using his fork. Yesterday he figured out how to use it, so he kept spearing food into his mouth in excitement without actually chewing his food. He had 2 raviolis, a piece of sausage and a slice of mushroom in there before I dove in and fished it all out.

- I read In Fashion by Stilinskisparkles today. (Sterek, 10k, mature). It was hot and had heaps of UST and I think maybe UST is my absolute favourite thing to read ever.
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- I saw my MIL yesterday and she seemed much much happier. She's agreed to go see a professional, so that's great news.

- The university is giving Adam 8 unit credits for prior study. That's an entire year's worth of uni he won't have to do! He probably won't try to finish in two years, but he'll be able to take less uni and do more work etc for example. But that's amazing, that's the maximum number of credits they were allowed to give.

- I met up with my friend from the UK yesterday and we had a lovely meal and went for icecream. He was so astounded to see the icecream shop had 'rainbow' flavoured ice cream. I was astonished that he'd never seen it before! It's one of our very basic flavours! He bought some and had sprinkles on it and everything :)

- I try not to compare my kids, but it's sometimes a little bit hard because they're exactly two years apart, so I'll look back at say, Christmas photos, and know that Liam was the same age in 2011 that Toby was in 2013 for example. Anyway, Toby is generally a couple of months behind Liam in all ways except ball handling skills. He's never been into building blocks, always enjoying knocking over towers instead, whereas at this age, Liam was building towers 11 blocks high. Anyway, turns out Toby *can* build with blocks. I've never seen him so much put one block on top of another, but yesterday he was building towers 6 or 7 blocks high. I was so excited :)

- Since we're heaping so much praise on Toby for his towers, Liam decided he had to get fancy and is now building all these tricky balanced towers. And I am *so* impressed by these ones! They're so hard to do!

- The Waterfront festival is on this weekend down the road - rides and amusements and live music etc etc all weekend, and there's going to be fireworks at 9:45pm and I loooooove fireworks and I haven't seen fireworks for years since I've had kids so I thought 9:45 is super reasonable but Adam said it's going to be too late, but I'm going to convince him to go. OR I'M GOING TO CRY. LIKE A CHILD.
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- the beach was absolutely gorgeous yesterday morning and Liam was absolutely beside himself with joy. He wanted to play in the water, in the sand, in the waves, under the pier, everywhere. The sand wasn't hot yet, but the water wasn't cold and it was so good. Toby loved it too.

- Adam got accepted into university! Spent ages last night agnonising over his Personal Statement so it didn't sound cheesy then just uploaded it, and today boom! Accepted!

- Hi Australian Government, Thank you for Offering Everyone Deferred Loans for University, My Family Appreciates It Lots.

- I chopped off all my hair! My SIL's brother quit his hairdressing job but was still doing it on the side, so I was able to just go to his house, plop the kids down with some toys and get it cut :) Cheap! No babysitters required! My hair was well past my boobs most of the way down my back, can you believe!! Oh it feels amazing now.

- I watched Frozen! I loved it! I cried buckets! I found I didn't care too much about all the problematic stuff that was discussed before the movie was released. The songs were perfect, the voice acting was perfect, I have a crush on Jonathan Groff's voice, who knew (I did). I'm really loving this trend of having the voice actors do the songs too.

- Liam managed to do a 50 piece puzzle by himself while I was in Toby's room putting him down for a nap. I'm learning my lesson, than sometimes Liam doesn't need to be helped, that I should step back and let him figure things out on his own.
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- I haven't had time to update in a few days, but the days were filled with good things :)

- It's supposed to get to 40 degrees C 4 days this week, and today is supposed to be 35, but it's still only a lovely 25 degrees today so that's good. (I can't believe they're going to make people play Australian Open tennis in this weather) We've got a giant inflatable pool out the back which I fill in the morning and by the time Adam comes home from work, it's deliciously warm, and we all sit in it and it's just so relaxing. They're building a huge indoor pool complex in my town (finally) and Liam asked me 'what they building, Mummy?' so when I told him it was a pool he just said 'Oh, we already have one of them at home.' lol.

- We live close to the beach and I drove past it this morning and it looked gorgeous, so I might take the boys down for a walk this week, in the morning, before it gets really stinking hot.

- I'm trying to make the most of my time with the boys before I go to work! The idea of me working full time and not seeing them much is kind of breaking my heart at the moment, but I *did* get three and a bit years with Liam, which is more than what some people get.

- ELEMENTARY IS SO GOOD ARE YOU WATCHING? DO YOU LOVE MARCUS BELL?

- We went to a barbeque on Friday night at my brother in law (Bill)'s house. Bill's my silly BIL who makes poor life choices etc. We don't see him much anymore because he gets sad that everyone has a family but him, but every so often he'll have everyone over. His house is immaculate. For a guy who is drunk all the time and loves wild parties, his house is amazingly kept. He cut off the front of an old car to build an amazing looking barbeque. Like, he's just really good at doing things that aren't to my taste hahaha

- All the kids had a lovely time on his lawn and I'm so glad I had my kids at the same time as Adam's siblings. I know I wanted to wait a year or two later, but it's worked out so well. They're at the age now where they can play actual games with rules and communicate properly with one another and it is so so cute.

- Sally came to visit me on Saturday, and I visited mum on Sunday and she was really nice to me.

- I've finished Adam's university application, just need Adam to edit it and submit! Hurrah.

- I worked out we can survive short term on unemployment benefits, so if I don't get a job ASAP, it's not the end of the world.

- [livejournal.com profile] jimmyjack offered me some very casual admin work for his law firm, so now my resume doesn't look so bare! He's so nice to me I don't even know, you guys. I'm still struggling with putting it together, but I am so determined to get it done tonight. I CANNOT WATCH SHERLOCK UNTIL I HAVE DONE MY RESUME.

- Everyone has been raving about a Louis Tomlinson/Nick Grimshaw fic sunsetmog wrote, it's 122k! I haven't had a chance to look at it, and I'm fairly ambivalent about Nick Grimshawk, but Louis is secretly my favourite, so I'm really looking forward to it. Which I will do, once I get all my other stuff sorted.

- I'm kind of relieved that my initial reaction to anyone having a baby/becoming pregnant on my FB is 'HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA I'M SO GLAD THAT'S OVER'. Liam told me we can't have any more babies because we already have Toby.

- I bought hot cross buns today. I don't care if people hate the fact that it's still a million months til Easter, I would eat them year round if I could. They had chocolate chip ones at the supermarket too. Yum. My family went out for dumplings last night for dinner and it only cost $23 for all of us. The kids are so well behaved at restaurants now :)

- I LOVE MOVIE AWARDS SEASON.

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Jan. 9th, 2014 06:12 pm
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- we visited Adam's grandma today for the first time in about a year :\ (we suck) and she was happy to see us :) We looked at a whole bunch of really old photos and it was really fun.

- It's finally getting hot here, so the kids spent the day in the inflatable pool!

- Last night we went around to my SIL's for fish and chips because the weather was nice and the kids had a ball. Everyone got a bit tipsy and started talking pipe dreams of selling our houses and going together on a big country property which sounds lovely and all but to be honest, I just want to live closer to the city haha

good things

Jan. 8th, 2014 06:05 pm
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- the university didn't reply to my email inquiry about the Commerce course Adam wanted to do, so I just called them up and they told me that once we get the application in, it'll only take them a few days to process and let us know! Also that it's highly likely that they'll accept him *and* give him credit for prior study! ALL GOOD THINGS

- I really struggled last night with redoing my resume so it looks like someone who wants to find a job in Administration and not Someone Who Doesn't Not Know What She Wants In Life, and to get it all into one page, but I kept at it, and it's almost all done, I just have to change some of the wording tonight, THEN IT WILL BE DONE. I have procrastinated this job for so long.

- Liam has a ride on car that he's had since he was 12 months old that he really loves and I bought Toby the same model when he was 12 months. Toby hasn't been tall enough or advanced enough to use it, just sitting on it while Liam dragged it around, but today he was tall enough, and zooming around with Liam and LIAM WAS ECSTATIC. Toby looked pretty pleased himself too.

- Liam is standing next to me now, reading what he can over my shoulder. 'WHAT ARE YOU TYPING ABOUT ME MUMMY' Oh dear. He's really been coming along with his reading, he's understanding that letters make sounds now and when I say a word he can generally tell me what letter it starts with (unless it's one of those blended sounds)

- I'm a little bit sad about missing out on this next chapter of their lives, but I AM SO READY TO GO BACK TO WORK NOW YOU HAVE NO IDEA. OMG ADULTS.

- I took the double pram out and pushed both boys to the bakery for lunch today because it was a lovely day. It's hilly around here, and omg I thought I was going to die. It was a total of 35kg that was fighting me the whole way, even downhill it kept wanting to roll onto the road, so I was pulling it while I was pushing it and I had to take breaks pushing it up a hill. That's my exercise for today, I think. But it was lovely, the boys sat nicely in their chairs and ate their lunch in the little street cafe setting :) I'll miss being able to do that too.

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