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[wickedcherub]

My mother just called me at 4 to ask me whether I had started on dinner yet and whether I had finished my laundry.

To which the answer of course, is no.

What is my life. She's calling up to help, to try and put me on the right track to Being A Proper Mum, but seriously, I'm just resenting it. She's asking me whether I need her to come down to my house for a day and help me reorganise it, so then the upkeep would be easy.

Which, yes, I would love it for someone to do that with me. JUST NOT HER.

She spent five minutes on the phone telling me I should get a butchers block/kitchen shelf thing for next to the fridge, instead of just leaving my recycling there, and I told her that a) the gap is much narrower than she remembers, and b) that's where the light switch is, so no go, but she kept on giving me ideas of what sort of shelves would go there and I repeated myself FOUR TIMES. She just doesn't listen so I can't work with her.

I can't assert myself because I get told that I'm ungrateful and if I could prove that I could look after myself then she wouldn't have to do this.

UUUUUUGGGGGHHHH. I get that she's trying to help but omg go away.

She's so dramatic, everytime I tell her I need space, she sees it as 'OH I NEVER WANT TO SEE YOU AGAIN AND WHEN YOU GET OLD I AM NOT LOOKING AFTER YOU'

UUUGGGHH.. WHY AM I THIRTY YEARS OLD AND STILL WHINING ABOUT MY MOTHER. LET ME LOG ON TO TUMBLR.

Comments

[geekslave.livejournal.com]

So sorry your mother is stressing you out. It's so hard to deal with someone like that. Wish I could offer some advice of how to deal with her, but I'm over 30 and my mother is almost the exact same way and all I can do is complain. I try to ignore her as best I can.

Stacey

[wickedcherub.livejournal.com]

Are you living with your in laws at the moment? How are they?

[geekslave.livejournal.com]

Yeah Mike and I are living with his mother and her husband. . They're alright. I think I got along a lot bettter with them when we first met and we weren't living together. Thankfully this hasn't happened with my boyfriend, but sometimes the more you're around someone the more their quirks drive you crazy, and that's how it is with Mike's parents.We haven't gotten into any arguements, but I think I've become a little more standoffish with them, than I'd like. It also probably doesn't help that she reminds me a lot of my mother and he reminds me of my stepfather. Jean's husband Greg likes to talk and talk and make a lot of lame jokes and can be kind of lazy around the house. Jean's not as talkative as him but she's always asking me questions and likes to tease a lot (which is something I'm not great with.) She's definitely not as critical or judge-y,like my mom is.

Stacey

[missdewey.livejournal.com]

Your mom is just entirely too much.

[wickedcherub.livejournal.com]

I knowwwww. She also really loves me which makes it so difficult for me.