some 'next baby' worries

[wickedcherub]

We forwent (is that even a word?) the Down's Syndrome test last time because we felt that they could only give us a probability for Down's and I didn't want to have to make any decisions. Plus I am young and healthy and it was unlikely to happen.

This time around though, I think I'm more likely to want to know. I don't know - maybe I felt like I could deal with a child with Down's if I only had one child? And all the time I would spend on a second child with Down's wouldn't be fair on Liam.

And really, how high a probability would you have to have before you (or I, rather) would decide to abort?

You know what I'm actually genuinely terrified of though? Twins. I'm pretty sure I just don't have it in me to emotionally, physically, financially support twins. Especially with Liam. Lots of people have done it, bluedano is a hero of mine, but me, I really don't think so. I'm so fucking scared. Asians are less likely to have twins, so at least that's on my side. I'm so terrified that part of me would even consider terminating one foetus if they were twins. Adam was horrified at the notion though and was all 'NO TERMINATING HEALTHY FOETUSES' which is probably a good way to go because I'd probably feel guilty forever and wonder 'what if' forever. BUT DOESN'T MEAN I'M NOT TERRIFIED.

I'm hoping I'll go in for a dating scan so I'll know pretty soon whether it's twins or not.

On the more practical front, I was thinking in a few months time of moving Liam out of his cot and into a big boy bed so that he won't be all 'BUT THAT'S MY COT' when the new baby comes. Then I was thinking of having both the cot and the bed in the one room, but Adam thinks that's a terrible idea and the baby (who will be at least 4 months by then) will keep waking Liam up. We have a third bedroom, but I do want to keep that as a playroom/spare room. Adam then was thinking of upsizing our house but he seems to have forgotten that a) the market is shit and b) WE ARE DIRT POOR.

And seriously? How privileged have we become that a three bedroom house with a large living area and yard is not big enough for a family with two young children? Especially since our living area also houses the study area?

I will have to purchase things though - another car seat, probably one for Liam, and Liam's current one will go to the new baby, and a double stroller. Thank goodness they pay you for having babies in this country ;P

Comments

[kyuuketsukirui.livejournal.com]

Two of my co-workers (both Asian; one Vietnamese and one Japanese/Filippino) have twin brothers! XD

[versailles-rose.livejournal.com]

I am still amazed that they not only pay you to have a baby, but have things such as 'sleep school', and help the Mum along. Over here, you are totally on your own!

[ms-hecubus.livejournal.com]

I was terrified of twins when I was pregnant with Kira too.

[starfish11.livejournal.com]

Congratulations!
If you do the 12 week scan they'll be able to give you a looks okay/ looks suspect for Down Syndrome, and based on that test you can do an amnio for a definitive answer.
Fwiw, all my kids can sleep through a screaming baby in their room. In fact we can turn lights on and strip beds if one kid is sick and the other kid doesn't even wake up, it's crazy. It's only now that they're older and they play instead of going to sleep that sharing rooms has become a problem for us!

[mrsmdub.livejournal.com]

Pipa believes it is her mission in life to stare at Remi until Remi is startled into waking up.
Right now, they have separate rooms even though Remi is still sleeping in my bed. Pipa loves the idea of sleeping with her sister, so I could see them sharing later on.

[jimmyjack.livejournal.com]

look just on the off chance, talk to me when you need a twin stroller because my sister has one for her kids who have just turned one and she probably won't need it by the time you do.

[laurenthemself]

I think the fact that you're thinking about Down's so much this time is a sign you should get it checked out. As for the twins thing, it's the same as Down's; find out first and then decide what to do? IDEK, I'm just busily hoping that the Pill+Implanon combo has fixed my period-for-a-month issue permanently, because I've had some suspicious twinges Down There in the crampy sense.

[bluedano.livejournal.com]

I've been meaning to comment on this post. Even if, heaven forbid, you ended up with twins, you would do okay. I always said I wanted "two kids, maybe a third eventually", and then I had Micah. And realized that I hated having a newborn. I loved my son, of course, but the newborn stage is awful. In a total reversal from the first round of trying for a baby, when Pete got cold feet, I started reconsidering whether I wanted to go through all that again. Pete said it would probably take awhile to get knocked up, like it did the first time, but NO! I got knocked up the first month, with twins. D: D: D: You figure it out though. The same with Downs, I imagine. Which, by the way, was one of my biggest fears the second time around, before I found out it was twins! Chances of either are pretty slim though. ;)