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Apr. 9th, 2011 02:40 pmTomorrow I have Sleep School at Rosebud hospital. It's a 2 night stay, where a midwife-esque person stays with me the entire time and helps me with settling techniques to get Liam to sleep. I had it booked in a couple of months back (the waiting list is very long, but it's a free service) when Liam would *only* sleep in my arms, and only for 30 min if that, and was waking up every 2 or so hours over night, co-sleeping with us, and would end up going to bed at 1am.
He's much much much better now, so much so that I thought about forgoing sleep school altogether, but he still has trouble staying asleep in his cot much past 10 minutes for naps. I can't get him to go back to sleep once he's awake, and he gets so grumpy later on cos he's sleepy!
I'm a bit nervous about it, because I'm sure they're going to ask me to employ some form of letting him cry, whether I'm in the room or not, maybe only for a couple of minutes. I've worked out what I'm going to say to them about being uncomfortable with that and being very firm. I get bullied easily by people and am really bad at saying 'no', and Adam won't be there, so I'm practicing beforehand.
Sleep school would be amazing for those sleep deprived mothers whose babies wake up every hour, because you have an option of having the midwife settle your baby during the night (unless he needs feeding, of course). And it's nice to be able to concentrate on your baby only for 2 days, without cooking or cleaning or anything else. And when you're trying to instill new habits (in yourself, as well as your baby), those initial 2 days are the hardest, so it's great to have support.
But yes, I'm going to be very clear with what I will and will not try.
Last night I was at my In Laws, and we were watching Flight of the Navigator with the foster girls. Foster girl B is speaking very clearly now and is very aware of her surroundings, regardless of her developmental/mental/emotional delays. My FIL doesn't seem to understand that and is always talking about her behind her back and she *knows* he's talking about her. Drives me nuts.
Anyway, we were watching the movie, and there's the part where the little boy gets up after his fall and goes home to find that it's 8 years later and his family has moved away.
B was all 'My dad has gone away too. How can I find him?' and I didn't know what to say. At first I tried the 'you've got us now.' but then she started on a 'I should have followed him so I know where he went' rant, so then we tried misdirection 'look, Easter eggs!' then she started obsessing over the fact that maybe she fell into a hole and her father's gotten older and she hasn't. It was getting sadder and sadder and she wouldn't let it go. She hasn't seen her dad since she was maybe, 2? We tried 'when you grow up, maybe you can look for him' But then she was like 'but how will I know where he is? Maybe I can live with him' Damn near broke my heart.
He's much much much better now, so much so that I thought about forgoing sleep school altogether, but he still has trouble staying asleep in his cot much past 10 minutes for naps. I can't get him to go back to sleep once he's awake, and he gets so grumpy later on cos he's sleepy!
I'm a bit nervous about it, because I'm sure they're going to ask me to employ some form of letting him cry, whether I'm in the room or not, maybe only for a couple of minutes. I've worked out what I'm going to say to them about being uncomfortable with that and being very firm. I get bullied easily by people and am really bad at saying 'no', and Adam won't be there, so I'm practicing beforehand.
Sleep school would be amazing for those sleep deprived mothers whose babies wake up every hour, because you have an option of having the midwife settle your baby during the night (unless he needs feeding, of course). And it's nice to be able to concentrate on your baby only for 2 days, without cooking or cleaning or anything else. And when you're trying to instill new habits (in yourself, as well as your baby), those initial 2 days are the hardest, so it's great to have support.
But yes, I'm going to be very clear with what I will and will not try.
Last night I was at my In Laws, and we were watching Flight of the Navigator with the foster girls. Foster girl B is speaking very clearly now and is very aware of her surroundings, regardless of her developmental/mental/emotional delays. My FIL doesn't seem to understand that and is always talking about her behind her back and she *knows* he's talking about her. Drives me nuts.
Anyway, we were watching the movie, and there's the part where the little boy gets up after his fall and goes home to find that it's 8 years later and his family has moved away.
B was all 'My dad has gone away too. How can I find him?' and I didn't know what to say. At first I tried the 'you've got us now.' but then she started on a 'I should have followed him so I know where he went' rant, so then we tried misdirection 'look, Easter eggs!' then she started obsessing over the fact that maybe she fell into a hole and her father's gotten older and she hasn't. It was getting sadder and sadder and she wouldn't let it go. She hasn't seen her dad since she was maybe, 2? We tried 'when you grow up, maybe you can look for him' But then she was like 'but how will I know where he is? Maybe I can live with him' Damn near broke my heart.
