some 'next baby' worries

[wickedcherub]

We forwent (is that even a word?) the Down's Syndrome test last time because we felt that they could only give us a probability for Down's and I didn't want to have to make any decisions. Plus I am young and healthy and it was unlikely to happen.

This time around though, I think I'm more likely to want to know. I don't know - maybe I felt like I could deal with a child with Down's if I only had one child? And all the time I would spend on a second child with Down's wouldn't be fair on Liam.

And really, how high a probability would you have to have before you (or I, rather) would decide to abort?

You know what I'm actually genuinely terrified of though? Twins. I'm pretty sure I just don't have it in me to emotionally, physically, financially support twins. Especially with Liam. Lots of people have done it, bluedano is a hero of mine, but me, I really don't think so. I'm so fucking scared. Asians are less likely to have twins, so at least that's on my side. I'm so terrified that part of me would even consider terminating one foetus if they were twins. Adam was horrified at the notion though and was all 'NO TERMINATING HEALTHY FOETUSES' which is probably a good way to go because I'd probably feel guilty forever and wonder 'what if' forever. BUT DOESN'T MEAN I'M NOT TERRIFIED.

I'm hoping I'll go in for a dating scan so I'll know pretty soon whether it's twins or not.

On the more practical front, I was thinking in a few months time of moving Liam out of his cot and into a big boy bed so that he won't be all 'BUT THAT'S MY COT' when the new baby comes. Then I was thinking of having both the cot and the bed in the one room, but Adam thinks that's a terrible idea and the baby (who will be at least 4 months by then) will keep waking Liam up. We have a third bedroom, but I do want to keep that as a playroom/spare room. Adam then was thinking of upsizing our house but he seems to have forgotten that a) the market is shit and b) WE ARE DIRT POOR.

And seriously? How privileged have we become that a three bedroom house with a large living area and yard is not big enough for a family with two young children? Especially since our living area also houses the study area?

I will have to purchase things though - another car seat, probably one for Liam, and Liam's current one will go to the new baby, and a double stroller. Thank goodness they pay you for having babies in this country ;P

Comments

[starfish11.livejournal.com]

Congratulations!
If you do the 12 week scan they'll be able to give you a looks okay/ looks suspect for Down Syndrome, and based on that test you can do an amnio for a definitive answer.
Fwiw, all my kids can sleep through a screaming baby in their room. In fact we can turn lights on and strip beds if one kid is sick and the other kid doesn't even wake up, it's crazy. It's only now that they're older and they play instead of going to sleep that sharing rooms has become a problem for us!

[wickedcherub.livejournal.com]

HIIIIIIIIIII How are you going? I miss you!

We're stopping at two kids, so hopefully when they're older we'll be able to afford a bigger house and they won't have to share rooms.

[starfish11.livejournal.com]

I'm good!
Our kids have to share rooms (our house is only three bedrooms, ack) and although it worked fine when they were little it's a pain in a neck these days. Nicholai and Emma are spending hours staying up being silly instead of sleeping! I think having little ones share and having a playroom is a good way to go.
I really want to extend our house. Our block is a quarter of an acre and our house is quite small, so there's plenty of room to build on! Unfortunately Troy's paying back business loans and stuff, so it'll be a few more years yet. Although if the kids keep up the bedtime carry on they'll all be sleeping out in the backyard in tents if they don't watch out!