what's this? a soap box?

[wickedcherub]

My friends list seem to be dealing with the Honesty Meme today. I was very curious last night and almost threw my hat in the ring too, until I remembered my little theory of LJ.

No matter what you do, or how you go about doing it, someone on LJ will not like it.

It is impossible to please everyone, and with an honesty meme? That *one* person who took the honesty meme to mean 'let me find that little tiny petty thing that bugged me about you and tell you that' is going to represent 100s of silent people in your head.

If you tell the world everything, people want you to shut up. If you keep to yourself, people will think you're elitist. If you're talking to friends, that's a clique and if you talk to everyone, that's attention seeking.

It's a lose-lose situation.

Not saying that sometimes the opinions don't matter? If I was a huge-ass bitch, I'd want someone to tell me. But I'd also want them to tell me with their name so I could work it out and not end up a paranoid mess in the corner.

But it's amazing really. When I was writing up my Paranoia meme (which is still coming by the way) the good things I thought about you all far far outweighed the bad things. I can't think of very many bad things I think about any of you at all. I read that Honesty Meme with a face like this -> :o Where I could not believe that people would *care* about half the stuff they were saying.

I'm glad I didn't put my name in now. I think I'm done with memes and spamming now for a while.

*collapses* Okay they don't make soap boxes like they used to. :p

Comments

[wickedcherub.livejournal.com]

No, I was replying to that comment 5 minutes before class so chances are I just didn't read it right. :\

Well the way I've always read you is that you only care for the opinions of certain people. (I think we had that discussion about feedback?) Whereas people like myself have the anxiety-inducing (you're right) trait of caring about everyone's opinions whether they be stupid plebes or Shakespeare/Einstein clones.

I think it comes down to the idea then that you know who you are? You're getting into this really good groove lately with life and what you want from it, whereas I just try to fit in wherever I go. (In RL, I mean) My self esteem is fairly low most of the time, and perhaps that's why.

I like talking to you. Everything's always straight up. :D

[danbi.livejournal.com]

Well, feedback on fic's a little different than just talking to someone, I think. And in the context of fic, I believe what I said was that if someone I admire shoots me a compliment on my writing, it makes me smile a little wider than a "nice fic!"-type comment. But really, I like all comments. It's more like if I feel negative in a situation that I still hear what's said, but I may not act upon it any more than just listening. You know?

Possibly. Right now I'm sort of at a point where I'm at a good place and continuing to find new ways to enjoy my life, but I want to extend that to encouraging others to finding ways of enjoying their lives. This has been kind of really unsuccessful. Haha. It's just...I know where I was a year and a half ago and where I am now and those two states are fairly drastically different. So...yeah. Seeing this meme again (man, I've been in fandom this long? haha) makes me realise how often things repeat and how much they could actually change for something maybe more enjoyable. I don't really know what I'm saying now and I have to get back to work so I'll end my comment here.

You know, that's a comment that never seems to change, no matter how angry I was or how happy I am. Thank you. :)