I'm still not really following. People prefer to fix their behaviour rather than smile at the fact that someone enjoys who they are?

Um, I'm pretty sure that's not what I said. My pointw as if a person is annoyed, I'm not a mindreader and I'm not going to expend the effort to try and figure stuff out that isn't said to me directly. I prefer to open and offer dialogue, something that I feel will be more beneficial to both - something that has been beneficial in the past and really isn't all so hard as I've seen some people intone it is.

I'm kind of shocked you seem to infer I meant differently. Or that you seem to assume I'd find it sad. Or maybe you were just commenting in general - really, I have no idea. But I am taken aback. I really hope I'm wrong in my assumption.