Apologizing like that may...well, may give the appearance of being better, but it doesn't solve anything. Resentment remains.
Have you ever tried writing letters to them? I find it very effective when you're in a situtation where face-to-face leads to lots of rhetorical nonsense and questions you can't answer at that moment, and where you're likely to be emotionally manipulated and do the same back.
You don't write to argue - you write to explain your perspective.
I know that culturally, the filial piety is your roots. But they moved to Australia for many reasons, and I'm sure one of them was to change the ways in which you lived - and your acceptance of and acculturation in western cultures shows that they were successful. By explaining this to them, in terms like that, perhaps they can see how they've been excellent parents, and that you're an excellent daughter, taking the next steps in your life.
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Have you ever tried writing letters to them? I find it very effective when you're in a situtation where face-to-face leads to lots of rhetorical nonsense and questions you can't answer at that moment, and where you're likely to be emotionally manipulated and do the same back.
You don't write to argue - you write to explain your perspective.
I know that culturally, the filial piety is your roots. But they moved to Australia for many reasons, and I'm sure one of them was to change the ways in which you lived - and your acceptance of and acculturation in western cultures shows that they were successful. By explaining this to them, in terms like that, perhaps they can see how they've been excellent parents, and that you're an excellent daughter, taking the next steps in your life.
MANY MANY hugs.