One of my best RL friends is a Polish immigrant. She's the only daughter and making her phd at uni. But her parents didn't want her to move out. It was a constant quarrel. When a flat in the house they live in became vacant they rented it for her. So she only moved out half way. She just needs to go downstairs to help her mum, but she can retreat to her own flat. Not ideal but it helped her a bit. Still her parents comments are very paradox about her life. On the one hand she should find a husband and have kids soon (she's 30 already, soon no one will want her anymore *gosh*) but on the other hand they proudly tell everyone that her daughter is getting an academic title. This lead to her being really desperate and having one bad relationship after another. Now she starts to believe that 'you won't find the right one now that you are so old' *headdesk* At least her parents won't insist on her marring a compatriot. As long as he's not a muslim or coloured and has a well paid job she can marry him :-/