I always have a lot of sympathy for people who are caught like you are between two cultures, because it is *so* difficult, and nobody should ever have to be in the position of having to choose whether to hurt themselves or to hurt their family. I don't have any deep wisdom to pass on, because I can't pretend to truly understand their thinking. It is so outside my own experience. I just wanted to tell you that I admire the way you are facing this, and I really hope this can be a step forward for you and them, as difficult as that is to imagine right now.